28 Fun Facts About Me...

Happy Friday everyone and Happy Birthday to me! In honor of turning 28 today, I thought it would be super fun to share 28 fun facts about myself. I'm sure I’ll be blowing up my Instagram stories this weekend, so tune in. :) But first, I have to thank Mae Fine Foods for making me the most beautiful macaron cake. And it was DELICIOUS! Also, thank you to Jana Melinda Photography for helping bring my vision to life! I adore you ♥️

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28 FUN FACTS ABOUT ME:

1) I am not Hispanic. (I get that a lot) My mom is white and my dad is black.

2) I was pregnant at 16, before the show was "a thing".

3) Disneyland is my favorite place! Who wants to go on a trip?

4) I have zero concept of time. 😉

5) I did my first blog interview with my Washington girl, Gretchen for her blog, THEGIRLPRENEUR and also in her book, The Luxe Dare. See here—>Unleashing the #JesusGirl in Business in You.

6) I casually dance with no music on and perform impromptu musicals for myself all the time….multiple members of my family just know to jump in on beat or in the right harmony! LOL

7) When I was younger I wanted to be an architect so I can build my own home. I actually still dream about it.

8) I was a published model in a German magazine as well as a K'mart kid.

9) I am the most positive person you will ever meet. My glass is always half full!

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10) I LOVE scary movies! Even though I may be watching it through the cracks of my fingers because I'm covering my face the whole time. EXCEPT for clowns! Don't try me with the red nose.

11) I designed my website 5 times before settling on this one.

12) I graduated early from high school due to having my daughter when I was 16. Did 2 years of college but never finished...

13) I LOVE spending time with family. Family nights are the bees knees in our house and we leave with major ab workouts from all the laughs.

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14) I've been on two missions trips to Mexico.

15) Some of my favorite shows include: One Tree Hill, Gossip Girl, Chicago Fire & PD, SVU, and Reign.

16) You'll never find me not smiling. If you do, check my pulse.

17) I’m a notorious overpacker, yet I never even get around to wearing even half of the things I packed.

18) I've had more blonde moments than I should be able to admit on record.

19) I have 8 siblings (biological and bonus) but you wouldn't be able to tell the difference.

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Sooooo...I thought I knew 28 fun facts about myself, but I’m running out of things to say (I know it's a rare sight) so I asked some of the closest people to share something. This should be interesting…

9 MORE THINGS THEY WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT ME:

20) She's lactose intolerant but she can't say no to pizza.

21) Her greatest love story is the love that Jesus has for us.

22) She's a walking holiday in a cup!

23) A Volleyball Godess!

24) She likes tanning even though she's naturally tan.

25) She doesn't like watermelon or koolaid but she knows how to swim. 😉

26) Even though we watched her trust & heart be broken by a divorce, with her faith and family's support, she gets stronger everyday.

27) She has to have at least one cup of coffee. If not, watch out because the withdrawals will come!!

28) She is the most kind-hearted, lovable creature who has dealt with so much stuff in her life but made it through it all and still cute AF, smart, funny and kicks ass!


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11 Things My Kids Taught Me in 2018

Every morning when I see these precious faces, I feel like they grow and change literally overnight. IT'S INSANE! To everyone who told me this after they were born and still do to this day... you were right! It goes way too fast.

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1. It goes by fast. Seriously, one moment you're holding them for the first time ever and the next they are starting Kindergarten. I could cry just thinking about it. Choose time wisely, as their years aren't refunded. Any game, play, school dance, accomplishment, missed tooth can not be relived. My kid's favorite thing to do is "cuddle-up". When they say this, I know they just need mom and that nurturing, uninterrupted time. I wouldn't trade this intimate moment with them for anything. Even when they are older, married and with kids. They will still cuddle-up with me. When you can, choose them. Always.

2. No such thing as perfect parents or kids. But - I am the perfect mother for my children. God created me specifically and uniquely for them. Once you know and can accept that, you will be much more confident. Not every house will run like yours and that's okay. Don't be the mom that keeps score. Instead, cheer yourself on in the way you were made as well as other moms.

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3. Manners matter. Teach it, be it. Please, thank you, I’m sorry, excuse me, and please and thank you (yup, again!) How we use manners and how we treat people go hand in hand. Let's make sure we aren't missing the opportunity to teach this while they are young. This is also goes for us Moms too. A simple word of kindness can go along way, especially as they grow and learn to live with others in all stages of life.

4. It's okay to ask for help. I know this is super hard. As moms. we want to be the Super Mom and be able to do it all. Hard to break it to you sister, you can't and that's okay! That doesn't mean you aren't capable or that you should feel defeated. We were not mean't to do this thing called life alone, so just ask for others to be a part of it. Asking for help isn't a weakness but a strength of knowing your limits, so you don't end up worn out and wiped out.

5. Celebrate often. Life has it's own way of throwing curve balls and hard times. Even the smallest of celebration can go a long way with their little hearts, as can big celebrations for big accomplishments. Saturday morning trips to Dunkin' Donuts can do wonders when they have a solid week at school. Don't get caught up with what isn't going great and remember what is going great.

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6. Eating and sleeping can make or break your WHOLE day. Every mother knows, when their kids are hungry or tired, they don't even know who's child that is. A good food plan will set your children up for great physical health and a set sleeping schedule will allow consistent stillness and comfort. The moments of chaos, crying, nonsense drama, yelling and fighting can be avoided with good foods and routine sleeping. This goes for us Moms too! Have you gone a day without much needed rest or meals?

7. Have a support system. Motherhood can be lonely if you don't have a good tribe around you. I seriously pray for this all the time. I have girlfriends that are along for the journey but if you haven't found one yet, seriously pray for one. Therapy sessions and bills can be completely avoided just by being with your friends. The ones who really know you, watch out for you, celebrate you and cry with you when you don't succeed. The friends who show up, who really pray for you (and don't just say they do), believe in you, laugh with you and at you, stay up late for you, watch your kids for you, text you, call you, meet you at the hospital, or wait for you in the parking lot. Whatever happens in your life, chances are you have a solid group you’ve invested in during this journey and are a part of your life in some way. So give your heart away to a few gals who will give theirs back to you.

8. Take a break. Give yourself time to step out of the role as mom. Mothering until you have nothing left to give or only having negativity energy to give, wont be good for anyone involved. Give yourself space to breath and fill your tank. Go out for a pedicure, coffee at Starbucks, hike in the woods, a good run, dinner with a friend, or whatever your little heart needs. Then you can step back into it with your game face on!

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9. Be consistent. The hardest thing for kids is not knowing whats happening on a day to day basis. It's put them on edge with uncertainty which can turn into bad moods, drama, crying, and what mom wants that? Sure some cases are completely unavoidable. For the most part, it is our job to keep their little hearts at ease and to enjoy childhood. Whether it's their sleeping, eating, seeing family members, church, etc. Set a schedule or have a calendar to help them stay in a routine.

10. Pray often and when you can't...ask a friend or family member to pay for you. Anything related to your children needs prayer. From conquering fear to worry, stress, insecurities to accomplishments in school, good grades, graduating college to marriage and children. The time you spend in prayer, sets your heart up with the right tools to handle any situation. You, yourself may not have all the answers but when we pray we show up for Him. Doing things His way works out better for our good then our own anyway.

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11. Unconditional love. Does this really need an explanation? Love for your child or children happens before you see their face for the first time. It's an unbreakable bond, even if your current circumstance doesn't allow you to see that face everyday. But the way a child learns to love and their interpretation of what love looks like is something I strive for in my own personal life. Even in the toughest, darkest of seasons, a child's heart can still stand pure and bright as if hurt or pain never occurred. With that being said, I have noticed more in the past two years, my children watch and see EVERYTHING I do, especially the ways of my heart. Whether I'm in those seasons of toughness or difficulty just as much as the seasons of easy and simplicity, the way I choose to love others, regardless of circumstance, sets a precedence for them.

All these lessons I’ve learned came painfully for me and still do. I'm still learning and will continue to learn as long as I need to for them. Sometimes the 5 year old gives me more run for my money than the 11 year old. Which is shocking since, Ciara is at that pre-teen age of thinking she's grown. (Someone send help - ha!) I’ve come a long way in 11 years and I’ve got a much longer way to go. In all the lessons and learning and letting go, God remains the only constant thing for us. Through the days of my children, He uses them as a tool to mold me more and more with every moment.

One decade down.

Deep breath...another decade to go.

Love, Lo

The D-word...

No, it's not what you're thinking... or maybe it is.

Kind of funny that many people these days can't comprehend divorce much less even say the actually word. But - here I am 27 years old and a divorcée.

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A new season of life that I never thought I would EVER have to experience, but hey - that's life right? The unexpected, unimaginable things can happen and you don't know how you ended up there. You can try to relive moment after moment of when and where you went wrong but do you truly know the answer?

Many nights alone, I could ask myself the same questions and get a different reasoning each time based on my emotions or situation at the time. What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me? Am I not worth it? Why is this happening? and the list can go on.

Then, the other set of questions start moving around in your mind. What are people going to say about me? How are my kids going to deal? Am I going to be damaged goods to the next person? Are people still going to want to be involved in my life? and again, the list can go on.

I'm not one that has all the answers nor do I try to be. But I will say this, you will be okay- I promise you, you will. Life goes on! Each day gets better, easier and sweeter. All the heart break and pain you had to go through to get here, built you into an even more beautiful, stronger person today than all the days before. Embarrassment might happen, loneliness might be felt and that's okay. Let yourself feel what you need to feel without being stuck there.

Take this time to rebuild yourself. It's never too late to start over. Find the things you love to do and do them. Meet new people, make a bucket list and find new things to find passion in. Eventually you'll be so busy with many amazing things in your life, you will realize your heart doesn't feel or look like Swiss cheese anymore and the emotional wreck you were before, no longer exist.

The one good thing I took from divorce, is that it's a public announcement that life and people are not perfect. Thank God! The pressure is off!

You're not "used-up". Know who you are and Who's you are!

You got this!

Love, Lo