No, it's not what you're thinking... or maybe it is.
Kind of funny that many people these days can't comprehend divorce much less even say the actually word. But - here I am 27 years old and a divorcée.
A new season of life that I never thought I would EVER have to experience, but hey - that's life right? The unexpected, unimaginable things can happen and you don't know how you ended up there. You can try to relive moment after moment of when and where you went wrong but do you truly know the answer?
Many nights alone, I could ask myself the same questions and get a different reasoning each time based on my emotions or situation at the time. What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me? Am I not worth it? Why is this happening? and the list can go on.
Then, the other set of questions start moving around in your mind. What are people going to say about me? How are my kids going to deal? Am I going to be damaged goods to the next person? Are people still going to want to be involved in my life? and again, the list can go on.
I'm not one that has all the answers nor do I try to be. But I will say this, you will be okay- I promise you, you will. Life goes on! Each day gets better, easier and sweeter. All the heart break and pain you had to go through to get here, built you into an even more beautiful, stronger person today than all the days before. Embarrassment might happen, loneliness might be felt and that's okay. Let yourself feel what you need to feel without being stuck there.
Take this time to rebuild yourself. It's never too late to start over. Find the things you love to do and do them. Meet new people, make a bucket list and find new things to find passion in. Eventually you'll be so busy with many amazing things in your life, you will realize your heart doesn't feel or look like Swiss cheese anymore and the emotional wreck you were before, no longer exist.
The one good thing I took from divorce, is that it's a public announcement that life and people are not perfect. Thank God! The pressure is off!
You're not "used-up". Know who you are and Who's you are!
You got this!